Saturday, September 24, 2016
Thursday, September 22, 2016
Monday, September 19, 2016
All in all, it was a lot of fun baking pies with both of my girls, even with the pie casualty. We plan to get together again to bake pies, but this time it will be pumpkin, apple, lemon, pecan, and chocolate for Thanksgiving. I can't wait for Thanksgiving! I'll be cooking all day. Chance insists that I make my stuffing, which I always do, and Kevin has requested turkey and ham this year. It will be nice to get together with our kids and spend time together for the holidays. I'm looking forward to it.
Kevin let me know this happened in Manhattan, NY Saturday.
Saturday, September 17, 2016
Friday, September 16, 2016
My birthday was a few months ago. Since then not much has changed. Things are pretty much status quo.
I'd say the Book of Mormon. That book has done more for me than any other book on the face of the earth. I love it.
Are any on this list your current hobbies? Which hobby on the list would you be most inclined to try?
I come from a family that watched some sports. Not all. I think my parents preferred old westerns, war movies, documentaries, and the movie classics. My husband, on the other hand, grew up watching all sports that were on. It didn't matter what it was. Once in a while he would watch something other than sports. I guess this is why I can never get him to go to the movies with me now. If it was March and nothing was in season he might have watched something like ping pong or cliff diving. In my opinion, if they keep score in any way, Kevin will watch it. For me, I love an occasional sporting event. My favorites are hockey and basketball. Once in a while baseball. Football is my least favorite. So when football season starts and Kevin and my boys want to watch the game I usually leave the room and go do something else or watch something other than football.
Remember me mentioning that large seventy million dollar issue I had at work that I helped resolve. Well, today I got a message that one tiny little piece of the issue still needed to be resolved. Keep in mind, this is for a multi-billion dollar client. So, pretty important. Needless to say, I spent a little time working to resolve this tiny piece today. I knew there was a reason I kept all my notes close just in case something came up. I'm so glad I did because it helped to speed up the resolution. I love it when that still small voice whispers and I listen....what a blessing! You see, normally I would discard or delete certain things once issues are resolved so as to keep things nice and tidy and organized. This one, for some reason, made me not do what I normally do. Thankfully the issue should be taken care of by Monday and that should be the last of it. (I'll probably still hang on to my notes until at least the end of the year just to be sure all is well.)
I have to say, I really do enjoy what I do for a living. There is always something new to learn and things are always happening. Never a dull moment. That is a good thing. I love the people I work with, my boss is amazing! Last night we all cleared off our desks so the cleaning staff could come and deep clean our offices. Well, we work in an office with 2500 people in it. Unfortunately that is to many offices for the cleaning staff to get to in one evening and our area got missed and we totally understand. Well, my boss, seeing that our areas got missed, got out her cleaning supplies and cleaned each one of our offices for us. How awesome is that?! So many times you have bosses that feel that certain tasks are beneath them, but not my boss. She will do whatever it takes. I love that about her and it makes me appreciate her more than ever! She has been a huge blessing to our team. We have learned a lot and we all seem to be working better as a team now. Plus, she is working to promote me. That makes me super happy! If all goes well, that should happen about the time Curtis gets home from his mission. If I wouldn't have had to be out so much right after Kevin's SCI it probably would have happened at the beginning of this year, but I couldn't help that. Family first! I am so grateful she is doing everything she can to help me reach that goal. What more could I ask for?
As soon as I got home from work I ran to Target with Kyle. He wanted to get a couple pairs of socks and he picked up some things to make sandwiches. Before we left, I called in a couple prescription refills for Kevin. By the time we got home from Target both prescriptions were ready so Lexi and I ran down to Walgreen's to pick them up. Lately it seems that we have been running to two Walgreen's to pick up everyone's prescriptions which isn't that big of a deal, but the one Walgreen's seems to be a lot more pleasant to work with, even though they are the ones that made that big mistake and shorted Kevin on that one prescription several months back and I had to move heaven and earth to get them to fix it, I still think they are the better place. They have been very nice to work with and I appreciate that more than ever, especially since Kevin has some pretty intense medications we are dealing with. The other location just seemed to not be as nice. So, tonight when I was at the Walgreen's I like I asked the pharmacist how we could go about moving the entire family over to their location. He said just let us know which prescriptions you want to move and we will do it. Then he asked me if I wanted him to keep our debit card on file so they could set it up so that whenever Kevin had future prescriptions to pay for we could make the payment over the phone and then all we had to do was to pick it up. How cool is that? I like that option of being able to pick and choose which ones we pay on the phone and which ones we don't. Love it!!
Once I got home I was ready to be home. Wednesday I made the mistake of drinking a glass of Mountain Dew with dinner. Big mistake! I probably had less than 12 ounces of Mountain Dew. If I had to guess it was probably more like 8 ounces. That night I couldn't fall asleep to save my life. I tossed and turned and finally remember checking the clock for the last time just after 12:30AM. The next day I was pretty tired. I made it through work okay, but once I got home I was ready to call it day. Well, I scheduled a doctor's appointment for 5PM that night.
My doctor is amazing! Since Kevin's SCI a lot has changed around our home. Kevin is set up in the master bedroom and has pretty much taken over the entire room. In fact, I have moved out all of my clothing, the things I use in the master bathroom to do my hair and make-up, all of my jewelry, and I pretty much do not have a space to call my own now. I am like a gypsy in my own home moving from place to place with all of my belongings. I kid you not. In fact, all of my stuff is hung over chairs in my dining room and on the coffee table in my living room because I don't have a place to put it all. In fact, I blow dry my hair while sitting on the couch in my living room simply because the guest bathroom is too steamy after my shower. So, because all of my stuff is everywhere and I don't have a place to put it all, it's been hard. I was talking to my doctor about some of these things and how I didn't want people in my home to see the piles of clothing and other things all over my dining room chairs and coffee table. I explained that I don't want anyone coming into my home until I had all of that put away in a spot and things were "company clean". It's an issue for me. I know. I don't want to give anyone any more stuff to talk about because I don't want to be the topic of their conversations and their nit picking. I can't help that. I know I will never have the perfect situation in my lifetime and no matter what, people are going to talk, even if my house is "company clean". BUT, at least if they talk, I will know that I have done everything within my power and then if they talk it's on them and it's their problem. My doctor and I talked about this for a bit. She said it's time to get myself a space in my home and make it my own. She said I do EVERYTHING for EVERYONE in this family and I deserve my own space. I make the money. I pay the bills. I cook. I clean. I am the one everyone comes to when they need something and I am not placing enough value on myself by allowing myself to not have my own space. She said I need to work on placing more value on ME. I about burst into laughter when she said that. I guess because I never thought of it like that. She is also helping me to create boundaries and distancing myself from certain people and situations in my life as a way to preserve myself and allow myself to deal with everything that has fallen squarely on my shoulders because it is a lot. She even said, because of all that I deal with, she hasn't even begun to do some of the things she normally does with her other patients. She said what I am dealing with is way too much! I appreciate her insight so much because she is absolutely right. Certain relationships are smothering for me right now and I need to step away and not be around that right now. AND I will say, that has been the hardest thing ever for me because that is not what I have been taught and what I know to be right in a healthy situation. Key word, healthy. She said if someone was physically hurting one of my children what would I do? I told her I would take my child out of that situation. She said, exactly!!! You would get them as far away from that to prevent your child from being hurt more and get them to where they can heal from the hurt that was caused. She said the same thing is true for someone when the same type of thing happens when there is things like mental anguish involved. You have to take yourself out of that situation in order to allow yourself time to heal and get stronger so you can move on and hopefully be able to eventually be around that situation later on, but sometimes if the damage is really bad you may not be able to be around that situation ever again. It just depends on the damage done. Now, for me, I'm sure eventually I will be back in that situation some time down the road, but for now I have to keep my distance and create certain barriers to give myself time to deal with everything in my own family and give myself time to get to a better place. I just don't need to added drama and pressure that comes from that situation...my plate is full and spilling over. You know, these are not things I didn't already know. I knew this situation wasn't healthy all along. BUT, by working with my doctor and her helping me to see and understand that what I was feeling and experiencing is not right or okay and she is teaching me that it is okay to say NO and I don't have to feel guilty about it. It's okay to NOT do certain things in an effort to preserve sanity around our home and allow my entire family time to heal because lets face it....ALL of us are going through a grieving process right now. We, like Kevin, are all grieving the husband and father we use to have. A lot has changed about Kevin and the things that he can or cannot do now. It isn't easy for any of us. My doctor said it takes a good full year for everyone to begin to feel somewhat normal again after something like this and everyone involved goes through a certain amount of grieving. Honestly, I knew it would be hard. I just never dreamed it would effect all of us so drastically and profoundly. It really has taken it's toll on all of us and if we did not have the blessings we have in our lives who knows where we would be right now. I cannot stress this enough! Our ability to get through this difficult time has come from the things we have all been taught in our parents homes, in our home as parents together, and what we have tried to teach our children, which everything has been centered around the gospel of Jesus Christ and the blessings that come from trying to remain true an faithful. I love the saying, "I never said it would be easy, I only said it would be worth it." This quote referring to the trials we experience in this earthly life in order to someday be found worthy to return to live with our Heavenly Father in the celestial kingdom. That is what this earth life is really all about. Working together, teaching each other, learning together, helping each other through the difficult times, and making sure we ALL make it back to our Heavenly Father. I also like the picture that use to hang above my living room couch of the stripling warriors. (We took the picture down so we could use the doors it hung on for my daughter's wedding reception and I just haven't put it back up yet....I relocating it to our dining room) In the picture the captain is taking a report from one of the soldiers and the soldier reports, "All present and accounted for." That is what I want my husband and I to be able to say when we stand before him at judgement that our little family is ALL present and accounted for. No, this trial has not been easy. No, this trial has not been anything we would wish on our worst enemies. Yes, we have our bad moments when we want to run screaming from the building saying I'm done and I can't do this anymore, but realistically, we know that is never the option. We are in this as a family together forever, for always, and no matter what! AND that means with all of our good times and all of our bad. To-ge-ther! All of us.
After that appointment the other day, I ran an errand and got gas in my car. Once I was home I was home. I must have finally fell asleep last night by about 9PM, which is pretty late seeing as how I get up at 4AM each morning to make it to work on time. Tonight, I'm feeling the same way I did last night. I'm ready to go to bed and it's only 7PM. How crazy is that?? Lexi didn't want anything special for dinner and she just had some left overs. I had some of the same thing Lexi had so I was good to go. Before Lexi and I ran to pick up prescriptions I made Kevin a sandwich and he was good to go. Tonight I think he will be sleeping soundly, or at least I hope he will be. These prescriptions help with the nerve pain. They are not the same medicines he sees a pain specialist for. The medications we see a pain specialist for, Kevin won't let me refill. He wants to wait for social security to kick in first. He is being stubborn and I have tried and tried to let him know that those prescriptions do not cost thousands of dollars now that we have almost met all of our deductibles for the year. He still won't do it. I also think he wants to see if the doctor can change up the medications for something a little different. Something a little less strong and I am perfectly A-okay with that. Frankly, I prefer that. I don't like him taking all of those controlled medications anyway. They make him loopy and he doesn't need any help with that. That is his "tell" when things are not good. I can always tell Kevin isn't feeling well when he is loopy right now or he starts to slip out of bed over and over again. That is when I know it's time to get him some help and it comes on quick. I have to monitor him a lot. We use to go running to the bedroom every time we heard a loud noise. Now we just ask Kevin if he is okay. If he doesn't answer within a minute or two, then we go running. So see, things are getting a little better. We aren't in panic mode with every noise anymore. That's a good thing. We are starting to get the hang of thing a little more. Sure, there will be things that come along I'm sure I'll have plenty of freak out moments along the way. Thankfully there are others who have been through this kind of thing before and who will be there to help us all every step of the way and that is an incredible blessing!
Tonight Kyle is off playing games with a couple of the officers he works with, a couple of the dispatchers, and a couple of the police aides. He won't be home until late an then his work week starts again tomorrow. He needs to get out and have some fun so this kind of thing is encouraged by Kevin and I. I think he could also benefit from taking an institute class while he has a little extra time. He didn't sign up for classes this semester because his work schedule was going (or still could be) changed. He is working at the Central Phoenix location right now and he was trying to get back to the main campus. He likes being busy and going out on campus and meeting the students and going on calls with the officers and doing the kind of work he wants to be doing. Right now his job consists of sitting at a desk that was never something Kyle wanted to be doing. At least this schedule isn't permanent and will change eventually. Kyle told me the other day that once he goes through the academy he will graduate from the academy with an associates degree which thrills me! He of course, would continue on to finish with at least a bachelor's degree. Of course it would be in criminology. I love that he enjoys what he does, even when he is sitting at a desk. Since he started this job, he hasn't missed a single day. Sure, he took a vacation day when Danielle got married to attend the temple ceremony but that has been it. He loves his work. I for one, love what I do as well, but if someone were to offer me enough money to be able to not work and stay home and take care of my husband and children I don't think it would take me very long to make the decision to become a stay at home wife and mother. I'm sure there are things about being a stay at home wife and mother that I will hate, but I at least would like the opportunity to find those things out for myself. Know what I mean??
This weekend I had planned to head over to Peoria to pick up something from a friend, but my stomach is a mess. So, that may have to wait. Danielle and I are suppose to get together to bake that apple pie this Sunday, but that to may have to wait. More to come on all of that......
Are you still with me?
I'm sure you have probably read enough, right?
Well, it's been a busy week and I think I just might watch a movie and head off to bed. Take care my friends and we will talk again soon.
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Let's start with a Meme.....
The Alice Through the Looking Glass Meme
If your life was a book, what would be its title? Plans Are Made to be Broken, So Don't Make Them.
Who is/was the weirdest person in your life? Weird?! I wouldn't call anyone weird so I can't really decide.
What is a special thing that someone once did for you? There have been several things. When I was in Elementary School my grandparents paid to have me fly to California to spend a week with them. We went all over the place,....Disneyland, the Queen Mary, the Spruce Goose, A museum. It was a lot of fun. Then there were several things my parents have done for me. Like planning and executing a wedding reception for me at a time when my dad was out of work. My parents sacrificed a lot for my reception. Then there was the time later when my parents paid our rent several months in a row when I was pregnant with Lexi. There was the time my parents gave me money to purchase a car. Then there are the countless times when my parents have helped us since Kevin's spinal cord injury. There is also all the things our church has done for us since Kevin's spinal cord injury as well. These are just a few of the things people have done for us.
If you could erase someone off the planet, who would it be? I wouldn't choose anyone. I don't hate anyone enough to want to erase their existence. Now, if someone hurt the ones I love...I might feel differently, at least for a little while, but I hope I'd be able to find it in me to forgive them. Hate's not a good thing...it only hurts the hater.
What’s a big goal that you have? I want to be able to buy the house we live in and remove all the carpet and tile from every room and replace it with another type of flooring. Then I want to knock out the wall where our kitchen is and extend it so it lines up with the back wall of our bedroom. Then I would close off the room we now use as our family room and turn it into a bedroom again. I'd then put up a wall to make our living room smaller on the one side, and then on the other would be our dining room. Then the room beyond the dining room would become our family room with an opening between it to the master bedroom that could be opened up so Kevin wouldn't be closed off from the rest of us when he has to lay down. Hope that all makes sense.
If you could time travel and meet yourself at 16, what would you tell yourself? Take every opportunity to do all the things you want to do. Don't let things pass you by.
If it were the last day of your life, how would you spend it? I think just hanging out in some beautiful location with the people I love, enjoying the world and hopefully giving them some things to remember about me.
What is one thing that you would never do that others you know have done? Make excuses for my kids. I know some good people whose kids have made some very bad life choices and they make excuse after excuse for them and are just the biggest enablers I have ever seen. They would be doing the child a service if they would stop making those excuses, handing them whatever they want, and riding in to rescue them from the consequences at every turn.
What is one romance depicted in film that you’d love to experience? I honestly do not know. I have seen so many but I can't pick just one. The one is Sixteen Candles. OR how about the one in Pretty Woman?
Who is the most beautiful person on earth? How can I answer that? We're all beautiful in some way and I believe real beauty is in the heart, not on the surface. A plain person with a beautiful spirit is much more attractive than a physically perfect person with a miserable personality.
What was the best experience in your life? I would have to say when my parents were baptized into the LDS church. That event changed our lives forever! I was only 4 or 5 when they were baptized, but that was the moment set into motion so many other amazing events in my life. things like my own baptism when I was eight. Meeting a return missionary who was worthy to take me to the temple. The moment my husband and I were sealed in the Temple for time and all eternity. Watching each one of our children be blessed by my husband. Watching each one of our children be baptized. Watching each one of our boys be ordained to the Priesthood. Sending our boys off on missions. Watching our children go through the temple for the first time. These are the best experiences of a life time!!
If you could rule the world, what would you change? I would rule according to the Commandments. Did you know there are about 747 commandments in the scriptures,...not just 10? I would also encourage that whole "love one another" thing. Love is not a feeling, it is a decision to take care of another. It's a choice you make daily...and you can do it without actually liking the other person or agreeing with their choices and beliefs. Wouldn't it be great if the world practiced that?
Where were you when you heard the news of 9/11?At home by myself. I remember getting a call from my husband who was at work. He called to tell me what was happening. I then turned on the TV and watched as things progressed throughout the day. I don't think anyone in America got much work done that day because we were all in shock.
We have a few photos and a letter from Elder Schmidt.
This week was a lot of fun. I got to try a lot of New York food with some members starting with real New York pizza at a place called Patsy's. We had a meatball, peperoni, and sausage pizza and it was so good. It wasn't as thin as I thought it would be lol. It's kinda funny, I've been here for a year and a half and still had never tried really good pizza. Just the dollar slice stuff, which is still really good. This week we also had ramen burgers which is pork between two patties of ramen. The member that took us kept wanting to get us more food because Elder Gxxxxx's and I are both bigger guys. She made us order more so we got poutine which is French fries with cheese curds and brown gravy. The place we went to was a Filipino place so they added meat and eggs to it as well. It was super good. We then went to a doughnut place and I got a maple bacon cronut which was so good. For some reason maple doughnuts are super hard to find in New York so I jumped at the opportunity. Below are a few photos of all the yummy food.
I've gotta get going.
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He's a funny kid. I'm happy he is loving this great adventure, his full-time mission, he is on. I'm so proud to be the mother of a missionary again. It's exciting to watch both of my boys having the time of their lives as they serve the Lord doing the kind of work He would do if he could be on the earth with us today. What more could a mother want than for her child to be found worthy to do exactly what Heavenly Father wants them to do? It's so exciting to hear all about the things our missionaries have experienced, but the best part is seeing their permanent smiles on their faces as they serve and when they return home. You can just see the joy they have in their hearts because it just pours out of them. It's awesome! And that's all I have to say about that for now. ~smile~smile~
In other news.....
As some of you know Lexi has been attending an online high school. She was attending one school and this year made the switch to another school that seems to be a lot more to her liking. Instead of spending two hours a day in one course, which meant she would take between two and three classes at a time in a six week time frame. Now she takes six classes, spends an hour a day in each class and each quarter (9 weeks) is set up just like a regular high school. Well, it took us a little longer to get Lexi set up and transcripts sent to the new school. Lexi has been working on the classes online but today she received 31 pounds of course material in the mail. She has actual textbooks that they sent to her. She's taking an chemistry class so one of the boxes had tons of fun things she will use for the experiments they will be doing. She also received a big box full of things for the art class she is taking as well. This quarter she is taking American History, American Literature, Algebra 2, Chemistry, Fine Arts, and even a P.E. Class. For the P.E. Class Lexi will be focusing on her running and will have to keep track of how long and how far she runs each day and report her efforts to the instructor by keeping a log and trackin her progress. At first I was skeptical when it took so long just to get her registered, but now I can say I actually like that they keep on her for every class and the course material she was sent is amazing! For her literature class she was sent three books she will read this quarter. She loves to read so this will be good. She's excited. That's half the battle. I'm a happy Mom. Now to check on Seminary for the dear girl. Baby steps. She needs seminary too. In my opinion, she needs that more than ever right now. The girl is in a rut with church, mutual, and seminary. We are working on that. I made a deal with her to get her to church with me last Sunday but then Kevin wasn't feeling well and I started feeling cruddy as well, so we stayed home. Frustrating! We will try again this next Sunday. I'm just grateful she knows she needs to go and realizes that something is missing in her life right now. That proves to me that her testimony is still there and she knows what is right, she just got off course a bit. Don't we all from time to time, even those of us that you see at church every single Sunday have moments like that.
We all can do better. None of us are perfect. I loved hearing Sister Ross bear her testimony this month. She basically said exactly that. We all have something we could be doing better to become better followers of Christ. Maybe it's learning not to gossip or not holding grudges and learning to forgive others and seeing people with celestial eyes. Maybe it's learning to keep the Sabbath Day holy and not shopping on Sunday? I will be frank about this one....this is my weakness. I find that working five days a week and trying to accomplish everything in the two days off is hard. Especially now a days. It seems like every time I decide to work on not shopping on Sunday, that's about the time Kevin needs a prescription filled or needs something like his special little enemas and can't wait for them. It's always something. Sure we could plan better with the prescriptions but It's not like I can actually plan for his bathroom issues to be on a perfect schedule. It's hard. If money wasn't as tight as it is I could probably stock up so there wasn't the need to rush out on Sunday's. And you know, as soon as I get to the store there are other things we always need like band aides or ice, and I end up grabbing that to. OR sometimes I get so wrapped up in certain things on Saturday and can't fit it all into just one day and I have to run to add money to SRP on Sunday so we don't run out in the middle of a blistering hot day on Monday while I'm at work. Then there are my children living in this house that seem to have checked out to the sound of my voice and refuse to hear the words coming out of my mouth. I absolutely LOVE it when they think I'm yelling at them when I haven't even raised my voice but happen to be speaking quite plainly and quite fast and to the point in an effort to get their attention. And besides, why bother yelling at them? All that does is get me all worked up and angry. If I did that all the time I'd surely die from a stroke or find myself living inside a room with padded walls and a straight jacket on my back, and I've got to many people counting on me to have that happen. Could you imagine what my children would do if I really did yell at them? The thought just makes me laugh. They wouldn't know what to do. Run and hide, or vacate the premises.
I would hope that others would understand, but I've come to know that even those that know our situation well still find reason to judge. Even one of our neighbors hold a grudge. We use to have a nice, fairly well kept front green lawn. Since Kevin's SCI and this shift of responsibilities the yard has taken a back seat in the order of importance on my list of things to do. Now, don't get me wrong, I love a nice, well kept yard just like anyone, but there are just not enough hours in the day to get it all done. Needless to say, I've explained our situation to our one neighbor and they are well aware, yet lately they will not speak to me at all. The other day they were all out working on something in their garage and I was at our mailbox. I saw them and immediately said hello, they turned, saw me, said nothing, and turned back to whatever it was that they were doing. It was obvious that they were upset that we let the yard turn brown, but instead of getting upset I just laughed to myself. What else could I do? Stress about it? That wouldn't do me any good. I know I'm doing the best I can with all that I have on my so called plate and that's all I can do. I also know that we are simply waiting for social security to kick in so we can purchase new rose bushes to replant and grass seed to put in a winter lawn. Right now every dollar goes to our basic needs and rose bushes aren't really top on the priority list at this point. I guess what I'm trying to say here is I often wish others could see the intentions of my heart and not judge solely on the things they see or by what they consider a lack of interest on my part and try to understand the situation this whole spinal cord injury not just puts Kevin in, but try to understand the place it puts myself and the rest of my family in. Maybe then they might come to realize that we really do want to have a nice yard and want to be a part of all kinds of outside activities but other things come first. After all, our lives have been changed forever and we are learning as we go to do things in different ways now and it just takes time. I guess that's where those celestial eyes come into to play. I have learned a lot about people and about myself through all of this and I'm still learning.
Some time ago I had a long time co-worker stop and talk to me one afternoon while I was on a break. We talked about her new job with the company and some of the changes to my area and then we talked about our families. She had not heard about what happened to Kevin, so I filled her in. She couldn't believe it and she spent most of the conversation in complete shock with her mouth wide open in disbelief as I shared what we were going through. She asked how I was able to continue working and why I didn't looked completely stressed out. I of course explained that was because of the incredible support we've received from our church and our ward and stake. Not to mention the support from my family as well. She couldn't believe all that everyone was doing to help us and she asked how a church could do so much. I then explained just a little bit about how incredible the support system in our church is and how the members rally around those in need. When we were done talking my friend was still in shock mostly because of the services provided by our church. My friend then gave me a big hug, reminded me how lucky my husband and children are to have me in their lives, and we went on our separate ways.
Today I ran into that friend again. This time I asked her again how her new job was going and she said it was great just like before but I could tell something wasn't quite right. Well, come to find out, after our conversation her Grandfather passed away. I guess this Grandfather was the primary care taker for a severely mentally retarded uncle of hers. Over the years it was always understood that this uncle would go to live with relatives in California if anything were to happen to my friends Grandfather. Well, plans changed and now this uncle is now living with my friend, her husband, and their six children. My friend then proceeded to tell me that she had to wake up super early today to help her uncle in the bathroom, which had become a complete mess by the time she got to the room. She said she spent most of the morning cleaning the bathroom before she could even think about getting ready for work herself. She looked worn out. She even said she was worn out and having her uncle live with them was a lot harder than she ever thought it could be. I then told my friend I knew exactly how she felt and that her family was incredibly blessed to have her in their lives, I then gave her a big hug, and told her that she could call me for anything....even if it meant help cleaning a stinky bathroom and I'd come running as long as I wasn't knee deep in the middle of my own mess. That put a smile on her face and we went our separate ways. I think she needed to talk more but couldn't spare the time. My heart goes out to my friend and I hope things get better for her. She is pretty amazing!
Well, I think I've rambled on quite enough tonight, don't you think? You take care and we will talk again soon.