I couldn't resist sharing some of these little jokes I have come across these past few weeks and thought I would share.....
Kevin was told to let this tape fall off on it's own. Kevin can shower with it and it stays on. It's pretty cool stuff, but I will sure be glad when we can get this stuff off of him and replace it with a new bandage. Kevin had a drainage tube from his incision that got pulled the day before he was discharged from the hospital. Once that was removed he hasn't had any leaks or anything. This has been a pretty clean wound so far. I plan to take a few photos of his incision once the tape finally comes off. Kevin can't see his back because he cannot twist or turn. As the hospital put it....NO BLT's! No bending, lifting, or twisting. He has strict orders to keep using his walker, and he has one of those mechanical arms to pick things up off the floor or above his head with. They even gave him a super long shoe horn to use. He still needs lots of help. They wanted to admit him to a rehabilitation center for extensive therapy, but our insurance company would not cover the stay. So, to home he came. He needs help bathing, walking, taking his medications, feeding and/or preparing meals, and that is just the tip of the iceberg. I will say, I have been pretty worn out trying to make sure he has everything he needs up until today. Today he let me sleep for some reason and we set out all of his medications in little cups so he could take them. It worked, I think. I hate doing that and would prefer watching him take his medicines. He is on so much right now and he gets groggy and hurting and I just don't want him making any mistakes. I don't know what I would do if he over did it. That would not be a good thing.
All in all, what we have here is another miracle! Our family has been watched over. Even though our trials have not been taken from us, we know that our Heavenly Father has been by our sides every step of the way. We know that a mighty miracle took place the day the surgeon decided to take Kevin into surgery. We know that it was the still small voice of the Holy Ghost that whispered into our surgeon's ear that day, prompting him that something needed to be done. We also had a very tender moment early in Kevin's hospital room just before surgery when our two boys laid their hands upon Kevin's head and gave him a blessing. It was one of many that Kyle has given, but it was our youngest son's first time. Kyle did the anointing and Curtis sealed the anointing. It was amazing to see! We all had tears in our eyes as he gave that blessing. Curtis has been excited about every step of his preparation for his mission, just like his older brother was. I love that both of my boys could give their father this blessing. BUT more importantly, I am most grateful for the blessings the Priesthood brings into my life. We have been blessed. One thing that is always amazing to me is that we can see the Lord's hand in our lives throughout this entire trial. Even now that the surgery has been done. We have been blessed in so many ways. Again, of course, the trial has not been taken away, but I see how our burden has been lightened some what as we go through each step.
I've shared this story several times before. Tonight I just cannot get this story off my mind so I thought I might share it again.....
The Refiners Fire: A Lesson of Life's Trials
The following story is a great example of how the Lord teaches and molds us through life's trials.
I find myself searching conference talks when we go through things like this as a family. In fact, I stumbled across one tonight that helped me understand. Here are a few passages from that talk.....There was a group of women in a Bible study on the book of Malachi. As they were studying chapter three, they came across verse three which says: "He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver." (Malachi 3:3) This verse puzzled the women and they wondered what this statement meant about the character and nature of God.One of the women offered to find out about the process of refining silver and get back to the group at their next Bible study. That week this woman called up a silver smith and made an appointment to watch him at work. She didn't mention anything about the reason for her interest in silver beyond her curiosity about the process of refining silver. As she watched the silver smith, he held a piece of silver over the fire and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest as to burn away all the impurities. The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot--then she thought again about the verse, that he sits as a refiner and purifier of silver.She asked the silver smith if it was true that he had to sit there in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined. The man answered that yes, he not only had to sit there holding the silver, but he had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the fire. If the silver was left even a moment too long in the flames, it would be destroyed. The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silver smith, "How do you know when the silver is fully refined?"He smiled at her and answered, "Oh, that's easy--when I see my image in it."If today you are feeling the heat of the fire, remember that God has His eye on you.Author unknown
We will have opportunities to be called upon to suffer. There will be times when we will have feelings of hurt and pain—physical and mental as well as spiritual—and then we will know what adversity is, and we will know a little better what Jesus Christ might have suffered, and we will have done in similitude that which Jesus Christ did.
What does this mean to us? We will know Jesus better. It also means that when we are called on to suffer, when we have afflictions in our lives, we will know that we are not alone. The Savior has already passed through those times. As we partake of the sacrament, we might be able to understand the sufferings of the Savior as we remember our own challenges, pains, hurts, and adversities. We might be able to understand that in similitude it is somewhat the same as what Abraham, Isaac, Adam and Eve, and Joseph F. Smith understood.
In speaking of adversity, could I just tell you now that it is one of those things that is going to happen in your life and in my life. We are all going to pass through adversity. It is a requirement. I have often asked myself who really is going to be in the presence of God the Father and Jesus Christ, to live eternally with them and with Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, and with Nephi and Alma and Abinadi and Mormon and Moroni, and with Joseph Smith and many of the great Saints who sacrificed as they walked across the plains to these valleys in the West. Who really is going to be with them? I have determined it is not going to be those who sit doing nothing. I guess we get in the habit of calling them “couch potatoes.” I don’t think it is going to be them. I know it is not.
Now, when the trials come, what should we do? First of all, we must resist murmuring. We must not criticize or rise up against our Heavenly Father. We should study the scriptures so that we know the doctrine and receive from it that comfort that only our Heavenly Father can give. As the man I mentioned who knew Jesus Christ, we should pray mightily. We should be on our knees constantly so that we can receive from our Heavenly Father the assurance that this is part of our trial. Then we should seek to recognize our need to be tutored. We do not know what Heavenly Father has in store for us.
The Lord said to the Prophet Joseph Smith:
If thou art called to pass through tribulation; if thou art in perils among false brethren; if thou art in perils among robbers; if thou art in perils by land or by sea;
If thou art accused with all manner of false accusations; if thine enemies fall upon thee; if they tear thee from the society of thy father and mother and brethren and sisters; and if with a drawn sword thine enemies tear thee from the bosom of thy wife, and of thine offspring, and thine elder son, although but six years of age, shall cling to thy garments, and shall say, My father, my father, why can’t you stay with us? O, my father, what are the men going to do with you? and if then he shall be thrust from thee by the sword, and thou be dragged to prison, and thine enemies prowl around thee like wolves for the blood of the lamb;
And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.
The Son of Man hath descended below them all. Art thou greater than he? [D&C 122:5–8; emphasis added]