This has been an interesting week. Kevin and I somehow got these terrible colds on Tuesday and I seriously thought I was going to die from all the congestion. My nose must have run like a faucet for at least a day and a half. I think I used 5 boxes of Kleenex in one day. You should have saw the trash can in my office at work......it was COMPLETELY full of used Kleenex. YUCK!!! But we are finally on the mend.
Kevin's birthday was yesterday. He turned 47 and do you know how he spent his day? He was at a doctor's appointment. You are thinking, for his terrible cold, right? WRONG!!! He was at an Orthopedic Surgeons office. (this is his second appointment with this surgeon) You see, about 5 years......has it really been that long, he had back surgery. They put a titanium cage around his spine, along with some rods and screws to fuse the fractured vertebrae he had. Not to mention the repair he also had about a year or so after.
Well, that initial surgery needs to be redone...!!! AND, they need to do another surgery just above. That means,..................................................................DRUM ROLE PLEASE.....................
Kevin needs a total of 3, yes I said THREE surgeries to try and finally fix his back. Can you believe it?
That means, he will be down for at least 3 months. For the first surgery they will go in through the back and replace the cage, then the second they will go in through the front and replace the rods and screws, then the final one they will go in again through the front to do the surgery just above the cage.
Now, keep in mind, Kevin started with the company he works for now in December 2012. He has not been with them for a year yet. That means, no FMLA to save his job and no short-term disability benefits to tap into for this. To break it down a little more, that means at least 3 months without his income. EEK!!!!
Needless-to-say, I am a little worried about how this is going to work out. He needs the surgery, there is no doubt about it. He can barely get around now without doubling over in pain and/or almost falling down because his legs give out on him. It's a sad thing to see for sure.
So we are faced with some decisions to make. Let me say this first... Kevin's boss is a-MAZ-ing! He has been nothing but awesome about this whole thing. He told Kevin to not worry about his job, it's safe just get the back fixed and done. He just wants him better.
Kevin and I have looked at it from all angles and there is no way we can make it on my salary alone. It just isn't going to happen. (I have all the medical/dental/life/vision benefits taken out of my checks) So, we have been throwing around the idea that if Kevin can make it through their "season" at work, during their busiest time and when the over-time is abundant....we could save a few dollars and have it for the time he is out during the three surgeries.
Now, we need to figure out if he can realistically do that. Lately Kevin comes home from work and crashes on the couch or in the bed because his back is killing him. I don't know if he can make it through an extra 20 hours of OT a week for 10 straight weeks. What to do, what to do?????
Then on top of all this stress, the surgeon Kevin saw yesterday wanted him to have one more pain block. So, he went for that appointment today. While the doctor was injecting the medication an air bubble go into the spinal column and now he has an awful headache. (Apparently, this is one of the risk of a pain block) The doctor told Kevin that if the headache does not go away by Monday then he needs to go have a blood patch. (The man needs a blessing! I keep telling him this, but he keeps procrastinating. I think he just does not want to bother other people.)
A blood patch is kind-of like a spinal tap or a epidural injection. They take blood out of the patients arm and inject it into the spinal column. Apparently, the blood will get rid of the air bubble and ultimately stop the headache. But who wants to be in that much pain all weekend. So, we are not waiting until Monday. If he is still in pain tomorrow we are going to the ER for the blood patch.
Then on top of all that is going on with Kevin, Lexi has Festival Practice for Volleyball in Phoenix tomorrow. The tournaments opening ceremonies are Sunday. Lexi will stay overnight at the Hyatt Sunday to Monday, and the tournament will last all next week. So, Kevin needs to get better so he can try to make it to at least one of the games.
Lexi's 14th birthday is Monday, Curtis has summer school and football practice too. I still have not requested any time off to watch any of Lexi's matches. Not sure that would be a good idea since I have been out recently for my past surgery. So, we will see what happens.
Trials, Trials Trials.
I need to make sure my husband gets a blessing, NO MATTER WHAT! I know this will help him as well as the rest of us. Kevin needs help dealing with the constant pain and whatever decision we make. We need help so we can find a way to deal with whatever decision is made and also help Kevin get through this. It's not fun being the patient and it's not fun watching the patient go through something like this either.
We love this man and we just want to see him better. I want my happy husband back and I know he wants to be back to himself too.
And last but certainly not least......we are blessed. Even in the craziest of moments, and even when it may take us a minute to realize it, we are very blessed for all that we have. We are not rich by the standards the world places on wealth, but when it comes to rallying the troops during tough times, our family can adapt and I am very grateful for that. We have awesome children and they help out so much. I love them and appreciate all they do to help us as their parents out.
Our greatest blessings call us Mom and Dad
a quick little story....
The Silversmith Story:
A women’s Bible study was studying this verse and wanted to find out what this statement meant regarding the character and nature of God. One woman offered to find out the process of refining silver and get back to the group at their next Bible Study.
That week, the woman called a silversmith and made an appointment to watch him at work. She didn’t mention anything about the reason for her interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining silver.
As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over the fire and let it heat up. He explained that, in refining silver, one needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were the hottest as to burn all the impurities.
The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot, then she thought about the verse in Malachi. She asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit there in front of the fire the whole time.
The man answered that, yes, not only did he have to sit there holding the silver, but also had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the fire. If the silver was left a moment too long in the fire, it would be destroyed.
The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silversmith, “How do you know when the silver is fully refined?”
He smiled at her and answered, “Oh, that’s easy --- when I see my image in it.”